YOU First

So often, people search for others to COMPLETE them. They look to material things to make them feel better about themselves....to give them reassurance....to increase their self worth. When really, the solution is within. You have to spend time with yourself....work on yourself.....evaluate yourself. Capitalize on strengths and embrace your weaknesses, for they make you you! Your imperfections are the very things that make you unique. So embrace who you are!!!

Look at your failed relationships. If you're not happy with yourself, how can you expect someone else to make you happy? They can't. Your unhappiness will gradually drain the light that they have. It may be enough to sustain the relationship in the beginning, but eventually you're gonna wear them down. Besides, that's not the answer to your problems.....YOU are the answer to your problems. Work on you! Focus on you! Before you set those high expectations and make your list of demands on what you want from/in a mate, check yourself. You can't expect or want what you don't possess.

The first step is making a REALISTIC evaluation...we lie loudest when we lie to ourselves. Realistically, are you the person you want to come home to every night? Would you tolerate the behavior and attitude you have toward your mate? If not, then that's one thing that has to change. What are your strengths? Your weaknesses? What can you do to improve in the areas that you're lacking?

The second step is ACCOUNTABILITY. Reflect on past and present experiences, both good and bad. What did YOU do wrong in those situations? What could YOU have done to make the situation better? What did YOU learn from those experiences? What can YOU do to prevent future occurrences?

The third step is CONSTANT SELF IMPROVEMENT. Take the analysis and improve in ALL areas of your life. Not just in your weaknesses, but ALL areas. Focus on your career, your character, your health and fitness, your hygiene, your presentation, your education, your spirituality, and being selfless. Repeat this daily. And by the time you strengthen those areas, you will BE the person you want and HAVE the mate you desire.

No one wants the gift box with beautiful wrapping and the nice, shiny bow if there's nothing inside of it. They want a nice gift to be inside it. And if there isn't one, the box will be tossed aside. That's the same thing with people. Yes your outer appearance may be stunning. But when the initial fascination wears off, if that's all you have. You'll be tossed aside for someone with substance. Physical appearance gets you the interview but the total package gets you the job. Work on yourself....every aspect of you. Be the best you, YOU can be. Don't cheat yourself, this is YOUR life. You define your legacy, so make it GREAT!!!♥

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