A FRUITFUL LIFE

 I have been spending time with the Lord and examining my life.  Finally focusing on me.  My issue is that I have a BIG heart and I literally want to save the world.  Like Martin Luther, I too have a dream.  But my Father always says, you have to get you right before you can help anyone else.  Well, I always skipped over that part, giving people my last, putting my needs on the back burner. But that's a blessing and a curse because at times it hinders my progress.  I'm hindered because I take on the burdens of others and involve myself beyond what is necessary. And I am JUST learning how to minister or assist you in your time of dilemma while forming healthy boundaries.  I don't regret my decisions to help people because the feeling I get from helping others is worth it.  But I want to be able to help, not one, but millions. Change lives. Save souls. Make a difference in a positive light. I realize that starts with ME.

Alot of times, we have dreams and goals but never achieve them because we don't put forth the effort to. We want to eat the fruit off someone else's tree, instead of planting our own.  The may very well let you have a piece, but that's only temporary.  In order to have stability and security, you must plant your owns seeds of labor.  Your seeds of labor will produce trees that bare fruits of your hard work.  But keep in mind that if you give average effort, you get average results.  If you give above average effort, then you'll get above average results.  You get what you give.  I have GREAT aspirations.  My dreams are extraordinary and so is God's plan for my life.  So I am prepared to give ALL I've got and some, in order to achieve my dreams and goals.  And THAT'S exactly what you've got to do.  Don't just set goals and talk about your dreams, GO AFTER them! 

Know that you can achieve ANYTHING you put your mind to.  MEDITATE on your dreams.  CREATE a plan of attack. And EXECUTE that plan.  It may take longer than you expect or want, but any progress is better than none.  Don't let anyone or anything come in between you and your dreams.  And definitely don't let lack of effort or work ethic stand in your way.  In order to reap the fruits of your labor, you MUST put in WORK.  Now get to work! ♥


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SUBMISSION

Let's talk about the word, SUBMISSIVE!!  When I hear this word, I automatically associate it with a negative thought.  It's directly connected with the word "place", as in "A woman should know her place."  Both of these words have been widely abused by men in a demeaning way, which kind of forces women to buck against the whole concept.  Naturally a person will fight against something they find to be offensive.  I know some men are reading this and saying, "See...that's what I'm talking about.  She's one of them that don't know her place."  Before you past judgment on me, I ask that you hear me out.

In life, you can pretty much get whatever you want if you go about it the RIGHT way.  Pay attention to your tone and choose your words wisely when communicating.  A woman's place is beside you.  Place equals physical position. Since what you're really addressing is her role/position in the making of a family or relationship, you should use the word role or position.  The word "role" or "position" sounds much better than "place."  And it's less offensive. 

Yes the WIFE is to SUBMIT to her HUSBAND and the HUSBAND is to SUBMIT to GOD. Women will have NO problem submitting to a man who's allowing GOD to lead him. No one wants to be led by a fool! A woman, especially a smart woman, wants to know that her man is being led by someone she can trust, ie. GOD.  She has to be able to trust and respect HER MAN'S judgment.  Also, the man can't expect her to do those things that God has mandated and requires of her if he's not fulfilling those things that GOD requires of him.  A woman is a man's glory (1 Cor. 11:7) and his actions should line up with GOD'S word (Eph. 5:25, 33).  MEN: submission DOES NOT = dictatorship. God created woman as your HELP mate (Gen. 2:18), meaning, she has input and should be considered in YOUR decisions. He created her to be BESIDE you.....NOT in front of you nor behind you.  You are NOT superior to her....she is NOT beneath you!  Yes you are the head of the household...the protector, but understand your roll, as well.  READ your Bible! 

Keep in mind that the Bible addresses submission in reference to HUSBAND and WIFE, NOT boyfriend and girlfriend.  So sorry fellas....if you're just in a relationship, you really aren't entitled to anything.  You better take that extra step, because you have no entitlement to the privileges a husband gets.  If that was the case, women would be submitting to all types of men that are here by day, gone by night.  Allowing anyone to have the last say over their well-being.  The Bible states HUSBAND and WIFE requiring that their be the ultimate commitment between the two.

Another common misconception is when men assume that because a woman has a strong personality that she will be difficult in a relationship. If a woman loves, respects and appreciates who she's with, no matter how strong she is, she will do what it takes for the relationship to work!  And you can not judge how a woman is in a relationship by how she interacts with you prior to being in a relationship with you.  Nor can you base it on how she treats her male friends.  I'm sure that a woman's behavior gives you a general indication of what type of person she is.  However, if she's a woman worth her salt, her man will receive preferential treatment.  He will be entitled to things that a common man will never know she's capable of nor get to experience without the commitment and intimate connection. 

MORAL: You can't judge a book by it's cover.  Nor will you attract flies with vinegar.♥

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