Then there's the scary truth, that you may never know how she REALLY feels. Sometimes what a woman wants may vary from day to day. It also changes based on the end result. However, there are women who know exactly what they want because they've experienced enough bad to appreciate the good. But more often than not, alot of women are living life trial by error. Now men, don't start making comments because you are guilty of this too. Let's just discuss some scenarios that you've been through.
SCENARIO 1: A woman meets a man and they began dating. They go out for a couple of dates and she sleeps with him. They continue to sleep together and the woman discusses a relationship. The man informs her that he isn't ready for a relationship but would like to continue seeing her. She continues to see him and sleep with him and commitment never comes. The woman gives him an ultimatem and eventually the interaction ends.
MALE POINT OF VIEW: I don't understand why she's mad, I told her that I wasn't ready for a relationship but would like to continue to sleep with...I mean...see her.
FEMALE POINT OF VIEW: He led me on, saying he wanted to see me like eventually we could progress into more.
LESSON: Ladies when a man says, I don't want a relationship, BELIEVE him. Even if his actions say otherwise. If you know you are looking for a relationship, build a friendship FIRST!!! Get to know the person WITHOUT sex, so you're judgment won't be clouded. During the friendship stage, they'll let you know if they're looking for something long term.
SCENARIO 2: Woman meets man and within the first few days she sleeps with them. This lead to numerous encounters of hot steamy sex. Eventually the sexual escapade ends when he says a comment that makes her feel disrespected. And after addressing it, he doesn't apologize. Instead he makes another rude comment.
LESSON: Get to know people before you sleep with them. I'm sure he was rude and disrespectful prior to the sex. That would've been discovered if they had spent some time to get to know eachother first. You'd be surprised what spending a little time would do. Lol
Ladies, let's address us. Some of us are double minded at times. You tell your friends that you slept with him quickly because you "wanted some", so why get mad when it doesn't progress to a relationship? If you did it to appease a physical need then don't be upset when the emotional desires don't add up. Save yourself the unnecessary stress of disappointment. You got what you initially bargained for. Just make a better plan of attack for the next encounter.
The main problem with women is that we allow the emotional scars and baggage to linger long after the imposter has departed. You have to learn to have short term memory as to the pain. Remember the lesson but forget the negative. Never give anyone the power to hinder your ability to love. Always maintain control of your power over you!!!
When living the single life, the first thing you should do is determine what it is that you want out of your interactions with suitors. Is it a relationship...a friendship....cut buddy? Determine that before you entertain anyone. By determining this, you decrease the probability of getting hurt or the short end of the stick. Also, be up front in your discussions. Let the other person know what you're looking for. Most men like to take it day to day or "go with the flow" and that's fine. But if you want a relationship then you may want to keep your legs closed until you're CLEAR on exactly where the "flow" is going to take you. Now I'm not saying that not sleeping with a man automatically guarantees a relationship. But I am saying that, emotional ties comes with sex and if you don't know what the situation is or if he wants what you want, it's best to hold off.
MEN: If you don't want drama, it's best to be up front and clear about what you want. I know this next thing is hard for y'all but if you know she wants a relationship. AND you know you don't plan on being in one with her, DO NOT SLEEP WITH HER. This will almost always guarantee drama. Her feelings will be involved and she's gonna react emotionally. And someone may get hurt. Now if you let her know up front what your expectations were, then her decisions were no fault of yours. BUT if you are aware of her feelings and know that she's sleeping with you hoping that you'll commit, SAVE YOURSELF THE DRAMA.
And as far as what a woman wants....thinks...how she feels. If you spend time with her....talk to her.....listen to her......watch her actions....reactions....you'll know her. Yes we are emotional at times....irrational at times....but we have patterns and there is some method to the madness. You've just got to care enough in order to try to understand.
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