Now let me be clear, not all men are this way. There are some men who live for relationships and is happy with just one woman. I've dated him before. But I was in school and preoccupied with my studies so we separated. I often think about that decision. Those type of guys are few and far between, so LADIES when you find the man that eats, sleeps, breathe you...HOLD ON TO HIM.
But I've notinced that times have changed. The media sells sex no matter what the product is: sneakers, chewing gum, tampons. Its all about sex. Morals have been depleted and have become diluted. Why do you say that, you may ask? Because leaking a sex tape, being in a video half naked or in a magazine with a thong on gets you instant celebrity status. It even gets you a reality show. Now a days, strippers are populars and porn stars are idolized. That's why I say that. And that's ridiculous and sets a poor example for young ladies. Some are no longer aspiring to go to college and get an education. Instead, they are plotting on how to become the next basketball wife or video vixen. I can't help but wonder where have our morals gone? Are we not teaching our children to love themselves, to be self sufficient, to not follow the crowd?
In today's society, if you're not doing oral sex you're an outcast. People are criticized for being inexperienced sexually. When looking for a mate, people are no longer looking for morals and values. They are concerned with your tricks and tactics in the bedroom. I understand sexual compatibility is big for alot of people. And that's understandable, but what happens when you leave the bedroom? Are you compatible in life? Do you share the same goals? Do you have the characteristics and qualities to bring out the best in eachother? Do you share the same interests? Religious beliefs? Matter of fact, do you even believe anything religiously?
Our world is in microwave mode. We no longer take time to cook things and watch them develop to perfection. We want to stick it in the oven and it come out perfectly done and exactly to our liking. We're backwards now. Instead of becoming friends and getting to know eachother prior to sex, people have sex and get to know the person and become friends after the fact. Hoping that the sexual act will bring them closer. It does, emotionally for the woman. Not so sure how the man is affected.
But I do know guys that dismiss a woman because she makes it clear that she doesn't sleep around and will not sleep with him without commitment. To that woman, KUDOS to you!!! Never compromise yourself and your standards. If a man isn't willing to put in the time and effort to get to know you as a person, then he definitely is not worthy of getting to know you intimately. Continue to love and value yourself regardless of what this world does. Be ye not conformed to this world.(Romans 12:2)
I wrote this post because standards are dying. People are being criticized for not following the crowd, for not doing what is expected. I believe in waiting for a meaningful relationship before having sex. I also believe in taking my time to REALLY get to know a person before getting into a relationship. So yes, I have seen many men come and go. And the ones that went, should have. I wish that some of the ones that stayed would have went also. I am often criticized for my standards and my religious beliefs. I am not ashamed of them nor do I apologize for them. They make me who I am. I'm different and I LOVE IT!!! However, I do wonder if I will ever meet someone worthy of me. Some one deserving of someone who has done their best to respect themself and preserve their purity.
I understand men are expected to have sown their oats and there's a double standard but I don't want a man who has slept with lots of loose women. Someone who wasn't selective or discriminating in his dealings. I want someone who thinks highly of himself and feels that ANY woman can't have him, regardless of how beautiful she is. Because I feel that any man can't have me, regardless of how charming, handsome or rich he is. I'm not for sale...I'm for love.
Now are there any GOOD people out there??
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